Traditionally, the official religion of the culture in which we lived was the only means to have a sacred ceremony that legally recognised the vows of marriage; but nowadays we can design the ceremony we want.
The majority of Australians prefer to have civil ceremonies instead of religious ones. Part of my role is to help to create the sacredness of a wedding, without needing a specific religion.
For example, one couple chose to have their wedding in a forest in Spring. The bride rode on horseback to the venue followed by all her female guests, while the men arrived by a different route, carrying the elderly grandmother in a sedan chair. Neither the bride nor groom had seen the beautiful spiral of flowers that friends had prepared.
All the women guests circled the area 3 times in one direction, the men going in the opposite direction, so that each made eye contact with the others before they even spoke, and the group’s bond was strengthened.
Each guest was given a crystal by the couple as a memory of the day. Each guest offered a gift to an altar – perhaps a stone, a poem, or a shell.
Then the couple spiraled into the centre separately where their vows were exchanged intimately within the heart of the ceremony. They fired arrows out to the forest, symbolically giving new direction to their union.
Now married, their joined hands were tied loosely with vines, and they left the spiral together, back out into the world. With the couple at the head of the procession, the men and women sang and danced together all the way back to a feast and a party in a barn.
In your unique way, I can help you to design your wedding.